Pack Your Scarf and Your Sunglasses
31 May 2014

Pack Your Scarf and Your Sunglasses

This post was originally published in my weekly newsletter about art therapy, running a private practice and overall wellness. To receive these post before anyone else subscribe here. 

“20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

-Mark Twain

Even the best changes can be tough to weather. Sometimes we are so ready for a change in our lives that we scrutinize each tiny movement the way we might wait for water to boil. We watch for the shift so closely that it can feel like nothing will happen.

I keep thinking about this winter which has not quite let go even though it seems New York has already moved on. We watch the weather so intently, desperate to pack away our sweaters and boots. Sometimes we get a day or two around 70 degrees and it seems like everyone is rejoicing only to wake up the next morning to a rainy 37 degrees. We are so ready to be on the next page that we have difficulties enjoying the one we are on.

As I embark on the transition to a new home, a new office and a private practice I am aware of the desire to be on the other side. To push past the period where things are undefined and move into the space where everything has a place. We all crave the safety of routine. Then again, in this period when the dust is still unsettled, there is room for so much more. Before we land we have the freedom of being in the air. This is a place of excitement and creativity, the space with the greatest potential for growth.

So I will continue to pack my scarf and my umbrella on my way out the door, but I’ll also grab my sunglasses. I will enjoy these last gray days before winter lets go completely and appreciate the unexpected glimpses of the warmth and sunshine to come. I will remember that change is inevitable as the flowers and trees finally bloom while embracing the period just before it feels comfortable, just before it gets easy again. I challenge you to do the same.


Jennifer Byxbee

I am an art therapist and creative arts therapies supervisor in New York City. I have worked as an art therapist for over 9 years with children and adults in a variety of settings. Art Therapy is a type of therapy that focuses on the creative process in order to promote self awareness, esteem and insight. I provide long and short term individual therapy, group therapy, and supervision for practicing clinicians at my Manhattan office. I also offer remote services.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *